July 9, 2014 by Daniel
We had a lovely weekend this past one, a day out in Manchester and then a bit of walking around the neighbourhood on Sunday.
We were lucky enough to have been lent a couple of wraps to try out, lichen sand 100% cotton birch trees and an Indigo Cyano 50% linen seafoam, both by Firespiral.
I think the colour of the Lichen Sand would be great for more formal occasions, but also for Summery days like we had at the weekend. It was very supportive more so than the Cyano was even however that one being Linen does need a bit more breaking in. It’s difficult to understand how it’s done but all Firespirals arrive much softer than others it seems, so you can get going straight away.
It was a pretty warm day for Manchester but neither felt too hot especially the Lichen Sand, which seems to have been made for Summery days and we were carrying our newborn all day and the toddler quite a bit.
I’m not much of a wrapper, but when I get the chance I love it, I’m getting the hang of the fwcc with our newborn (with help from Hold Close!), we’d skipped straight to back carries with our first but I found the Birch Trees Sage very easy to fwcc with.
All in all it enabled us to have a full weekend around the city, we got the train in and had no trouble getting around and there’s just that special feeling you have of being close to your kids, responding to what they are interested in looking at and being able to react to it.
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June 19, 2014 by Daniel
On the 26th of May, our daughter Florence Emmeline was born at North Manchester General.
It was a beautiful labour, starting on the Friday night going away, coming back again and finally we went into hospital on the Monday (after going in Sunday night and home again as things weren’t happening). Kate didn’t quite get the midwife led unit she wanted but was able to have a lovely room in the labour ward instead which was for all intents and purposes exactly the same (except the ‘equipment’ was less well hidden).
We got in around 11 o’clock and Florence was born at 1.28pm in the pool.
Kate’s labour was so different to her first with George, she wasn’t being monitored, she wasn’t on ‘the drip’ and needed no pain relief. She didn’t even use gas & air, just breathing techniques and a strong grip on my hand with some massage before she got into the pool.
Kate said that the pool really helped her and I think she would recommend it to anyone.
Florence had a great start and did much better with feeding in the first weeks than George did. But about a week in we found that she was still losing weight so we needed to start ‘topping her up’. So the routine of pumping and sterilising began after a quick trip to Mothercare to get some essential replacement valves for the breast pump. We were topping her up 1 Fl Oz every 3 hours. The suspect also that she has a slight tongue tie, but we weren’t convinced that was a major contributor to the problem, it was more just that we make kids that don’t put on weight to start with – at the next weigh in she was expected to put on between 40-80g, she put on 140g.
Due to the top ups routine I took a third week off of work, having only planned the two ‘statutory’ weeks and leaving a bit of leave in reserve. But it was obvious Kate or I weren’t ready for me to return. I write this 4 days into my first week back. It’s been a stretch I think – another child certainly makes time management even more difficult – but I think things are going well. We are still figuring out how to juggle a toddler and a newborn, getting the evening routine done without issue is going to take some more practice. George seems to want only Mummy as he falls asleep at the moment which is frustrating as Kate is tied up with other things. George has only let me put him to sleep a handful of times since Christmas and I’m left feeling like I’m not doing enough otherwise or something wrong. It’s just getting the ‘handoff’ timed right so that’s Florence is settled and George hasn’t gotten too worked up.
We’ve managed a trip out to the Zoo which was a lovely day and this week we went out for my birthday to Bowl. Both times were really fun.
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March 20, 2014 by Daniel
I can’t believe we’re here already (I know, I know, I’m probably going to say this every year). My boy is now two years old.
He’s gone from this
In a Year?! At his birthday last year he was juuuust about walking around.
He left ‘babydom’ and hit full toddler around the end of Summer 2013. Now it’s March and he’s 2 we’re into proper sentences, he sleeps in his own room – for pretty much most of the night. We’re well into potty training – he’s mostly there but has the odd off day.
We think that’s he’s very aware of the imminent arrival of a brother or sister. I’m sure he’s going to make a great brother. Recently both Kate and I have been a bit under the weather and he’s been very caring toward us, asking if we are OK.
We’re going to the Zoo for the day and having a party with his friends and family on Saturday – it’s going to be a train theme – He adores Chuggington (although it’s fast being eclipsed by Pixar’s Cars or Planes depending on his mood).
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March 19, 2014 by Daniel
Found this post from January which hadn’t been published…
We’ve been sorting out George’s room and last night put together a bed we’ve got that is length adjustable (handy). We wanted to move him out of our bed so that when the new baby comes he won’t feel that the two things are linked.
We did try putting him in a cot a couple of times a long while back but it never worked out. At the time it just felt unnecessary, he wouldn’t settle in it and it was difficult getting him to sleep in there in the first place.
Now that I put him to sleep it makes things a little simpler, last night trying it for the first time he was quite excited so whilst I was trying to read to him he wasn’t paying much attention. More interested in playing with a turtle we have that projects stars onto the ceiling.
Kate I think is conflicted about the whole thing. On the one hand I think she feels he’s ready for it and it’s something that she wants him to be OK with before the new baby arrives. She definitely missed cosleeping though.
And George? I think he did really well actually. I was sure he’d be fine after he’d gone to sleep but I wasn’t sure what would happen in the second half of the night. We left the monitor on next to Kate to better hear him and I woke about 5.50 hearing him saying Mummy. He got out of bed and was on the landing looking at the nightlight I’d put there for this very purpose. He wanted to go to the toilet and after that he came in with us. By then we were pretty much all awake, I (try to) get up for work anyway at 6.30ish so that’s pretty much sleeping through!
He was doing a fair bit of gymnastics whilst asleep and I think he ended up pointing the wrong way and not under a cover so his feet were a bit cold. But all in all, I think it went really well.
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November 12, 2013 by Daniel
Now for some lovely news. Kate and I are having another Baby.
We went for the 12 week scan yesterday afternoon. Our friend Jenny looked after George for the afternoon and he had a whale of a time by the sounds of it with her and her son. It was odd dropping him off really, kind of a sign how old he his already, that we’re at the point now where it feels ok to do that (we’ve still only done it less than a handful of times and it was the first time Jen had had him for so long).
We did know that we wanted at least one more child, people at work have asked me already how I feel about a third – let’s wait for a bit on that one!
We had been cautious this time around about telling people early. I don’t want to go into it much but it’s best to wait really I think. It was again an amazing experience seeing the baby though. I don’t remember George moving around as much $NEWNISBETNAME, it was incredible!
It really does make it more real. It’s taken me a bit longer this time round I think, maybe George is a big distraction on that front and you don’t have time to think about things like that. It’ll be interesting to see George as a big brother, I’m sure he’ll handle it brilliantly – if the way he treats our cat is anything to go by!
We’ll find out the sex in January, due date is late May.
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June 3, 2013 by Daniel
I’ve been a bit proactive with the AP Dad theme I mentioned before. I’ve started a Facebook group and I’ve started a blog. Let’s see where this goes. I’m pretty positive, I’ve had some good feedback from Dad’s who’ve wanted to connect with other AP Dads.
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May 24, 2013 by Daniel
I think the problem most people have with AP is how it is for the Dad. I say suck it up. The length of time that things might be strained for is merely a few years, what’s a few years? (I know, some of you may now have a raised eyebrow) But seriously, as a couple I think we have a very strong relationship – yes having a baby has changed our relationship a lot and it’s an adjustment that I have sometimes felt she has taken better to than I have. But my needs happen to be on the lowest priority at the moment and to be honest, that’s absolutely right. I can fend for myself, my child cannot. I am grateful for any snatched kiss or hug I can get, but I am safe in the knowledge there will be many more.
This seems to come and go. He can react quite strongly to Mum leaving the room but I think it depends on what he’s doing at the time. If he doesn’t notice her leave then it can be fine. Sometimes he reacts to us hugging and suppose feels he’s missing out on his own Mum time.
Bath & Playtime
I try to take the chances I can get to play with him. I’m off at work all day so don’t get to do as much as his Mum does but when I’m there I try to get involved. She can get some other things done but keeping him away from where she is can prove difficult sometimes!
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April 2, 2013 by Daniel
So apparently it’s quite difficult to find blogs written by Dad’s of Attachment Parenting families. Kate thought she’d found one the other day and he went on to write a horrible post about images of children on the Internet that put her right off it. I’m not saying I’ll be blogging regularly about it, but I may well start a category on it and try to write what I think about it a little.
Good Friday I was off work (woop) and so got to spend my Day with Kate and George and we went along to one of her new ‘Tuesday Mum’s as Kate calls them’s house. There were about 5 Mum’s each with around 2 kids each and it was really lovely. I can see why Kate likes this group so much and it’s really nice to be able to talk honestly about the way you see things parenting wise. I think that Kate feels having that in common enables them to speak honestly about all manner of things as well.
So to AP-Dadding – I think I’ll get into it in a future post. It’s really taking us by storm at the moment but provides as many questions and answers.
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March 22, 2013 by Daniel
Just got back from two days off work celebrating George’s First Birthday. We’re having a little party for him on Saturday but we wanted him to have a special day on his actual birthday too. So we went up to Blackpool to
Sea World there and then to Jungle Jim’s in the tower after lunch. It was a fantastic day.
Kate and I can’t believe he’s been here a year already. It’s gone so quick. I have to say it’s been an amazing ride so far.
I certainly don’t think we’ve done it the easy way, but we’ve decided that doesn’t matter to us. We would rather that it’s difficult and good for him than easy and not. We have made choices that put him first and we are proud to do so. We’ve never done dummy’s, we are using reusable nappies, the Buggy has been unused for months now. Kate is still breastfeeding him and will continue to do so until he’s not interested any more. He’s still co-sleeping with us, generally we all sleep better for it. Kate has also found a group of AP friendly women she finds very supportive which I’m very glad for as I think it’s a hard task being a stay at home Mum so she’s always got someone to turn to when I’m at work.
I realised yesterday whilst we were at a soft play place in Bury that being at work I miss out on a lot. Kate understands his personality and his preferences so well and I need to work on catching up on that a bit. But I had a great time playing with him at home in the morning whilst Kate was baking his birthday cake for Saturday (I have provided home brew beer, fingers crossed!).
George is concentrating hard on his walking at the moment which is a joy to see and his vocabulary is coming on well.
Still I think his favourite thing in the world is the Cat (apart from perhaps Mummy & Daddy). He loves to point out where the cat is.
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January 7, 2013 by Daniel
Oddly I don’t think I’ve ever written a start of year post. I’m not really one for resolutions, etc – it’s not that I haven’t made them in the past it’s that I find them to be ephemeral things and not something I really need to do to get things done. I suppose I’m qualitative rather than quantitative when it comes to target setting. It’s about a feeling.
Anyways, there’s going to be some challenges this year in many arenas. George will continue to discover the world – he’ll completely different this time next year I’m sure. As I write this he is 9 months old, not quite walking but babbling quite a bit. We don’t think we’ve had a ‘word’ from him yet, it’s more sounds. But we think we’ve heard him apply the ‘t’ sound to the cat. So a bit more work there and who knows… It’s very exciting to see him learn things and it’s a constant process too.
We’ve settled into a Attachment Parenting style of parenting (at least we think we have). We didn’t go out and ‘pick’ a style, we’ve just sort of fallen into it organically. Which I think is probably the best way. Kate has just bought some ‘real’ reusable nappies (although I don’t like the term ‘real’) so we’re going to try that again having done a month or so at the beginning of another style of reusable nappies. The first time round we felt we had enough on our plate without having to make nappies any more difficult than needs be. Now things are getting easier.
Along with ‘AP’, Kate won’t be returning to employment at the end of her maternity leave. We would much rather have a parent take care of George than a childminder or nursery nurse, the finances don’t really make sense for her to return and the fact that these stages are so short and so important and it’d be terrible for both of us to miss are all factors in this decision. Kate has some ideas of how to make an income – so that will be an exciting thing for the year too.
I think I will most likely, along with playing with George (which I am LOVING), be stepping up on a few hobbies I’ve developed an interest in. Due to the above paragraph they will be cheap ones and involve things we already have or recently got. A Beer making kit, Raspberry Pi, Photography – something I’ve always been interested in as you can probably tell from my Flickr account but more recently I’ve found I didn’t really know too much about what I was doing. I’ve always really thought only about what I was taking a picture of, not really combining it with how to combine that with how to take the picture. So I’ve been playing around more with apetures and may play a bit with HDR pictures and long exposures. I’m happy with the kit I’ve got at the moment, even if it may be starting to show it’s age, but it’s still perfectly able to do the job and the beauty of a good SLR is being able to change lenses – a friend pointed out a great deal on a 55mm f/1.8 lens in November so I made sure I had one in time for George’s first Christmas and it was so much fun and interesting to use. To have to think about taking pictures differently.
We’re going to try and get a decent London trip in early this year, there’s many friends and family down there that we haven’t had much of a chance to see for a while. Kate’s parents are also looking at a house in the Canaries to escape the winter so we may get a chance to go out there too when it’s sorted. Providing of course we’ve got hold of a passport for George.
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