March 19, 2014 by Daniel
Found this post from January which hadn’t been published…
We’ve been sorting out George’s room and last night put together a bed we’ve got that is length adjustable (handy). We wanted to move him out of our bed so that when the new baby comes he won’t feel that the two things are linked.
We did try putting him in a cot a couple of times a long while back but it never worked out. At the time it just felt unnecessary, he wouldn’t settle in it and it was difficult getting him to sleep in there in the first place.
Now that I put him to sleep it makes things a little simpler, last night trying it for the first time he was quite excited so whilst I was trying to read to him he wasn’t paying much attention. More interested in playing with a turtle we have that projects stars onto the ceiling.
Kate I think is conflicted about the whole thing. On the one hand I think she feels he’s ready for it and it’s something that she wants him to be OK with before the new baby arrives. She definitely missed cosleeping though.
And George? I think he did really well actually. I was sure he’d be fine after he’d gone to sleep but I wasn’t sure what would happen in the second half of the night. We left the monitor on next to Kate to better hear him and I woke about 5.50 hearing him saying Mummy. He got out of bed and was on the landing looking at the nightlight I’d put there for this very purpose. He wanted to go to the toilet and after that he came in with us. By then we were pretty much all awake, I (try to) get up for work anyway at 6.30ish so that’s pretty much sleeping through!
He was doing a fair bit of gymnastics whilst asleep and I think he ended up pointing the wrong way and not under a cover so his feet were a bit cold. But all in all, I think it went really well.
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June 3, 2013 by Daniel
I’ve been a bit proactive with the AP Dad theme I mentioned before. I’ve started a Facebook group and I’ve started a blog. Let’s see where this goes. I’m pretty positive, I’ve had some good feedback from Dad’s who’ve wanted to connect with other AP Dads.
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May 24, 2013 by Daniel
I think the problem most people have with AP is how it is for the Dad. I say suck it up. The length of time that things might be strained for is merely a few years, what’s a few years? (I know, some of you may now have a raised eyebrow) But seriously, as a couple I think we have a very strong relationship – yes having a baby has changed our relationship a lot and it’s an adjustment that I have sometimes felt she has taken better to than I have. But my needs happen to be on the lowest priority at the moment and to be honest, that’s absolutely right. I can fend for myself, my child cannot. I am grateful for any snatched kiss or hug I can get, but I am safe in the knowledge there will be many more.
This seems to come and go. He can react quite strongly to Mum leaving the room but I think it depends on what he’s doing at the time. If he doesn’t notice her leave then it can be fine. Sometimes he reacts to us hugging and suppose feels he’s missing out on his own Mum time.
Bath & Playtime
I try to take the chances I can get to play with him. I’m off at work all day so don’t get to do as much as his Mum does but when I’m there I try to get involved. She can get some other things done but keeping him away from where she is can prove difficult sometimes!
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April 2, 2013 by Daniel
So apparently it’s quite difficult to find blogs written by Dad’s of Attachment Parenting families. Kate thought she’d found one the other day and he went on to write a horrible post about images of children on the Internet that put her right off it. I’m not saying I’ll be blogging regularly about it, but I may well start a category on it and try to write what I think about it a little.
Good Friday I was off work (woop) and so got to spend my Day with Kate and George and we went along to one of her new ‘Tuesday Mum’s as Kate calls them’s house. There were about 5 Mum’s each with around 2 kids each and it was really lovely. I can see why Kate likes this group so much and it’s really nice to be able to talk honestly about the way you see things parenting wise. I think that Kate feels having that in common enables them to speak honestly about all manner of things as well.
So to AP-Dadding – I think I’ll get into it in a future post. It’s really taking us by storm at the moment but provides as many questions and answers.
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January 7, 2013 by Daniel
Oddly I don’t think I’ve ever written a start of year post. I’m not really one for resolutions, etc – it’s not that I haven’t made them in the past it’s that I find them to be ephemeral things and not something I really need to do to get things done. I suppose I’m qualitative rather than quantitative when it comes to target setting. It’s about a feeling.
Anyways, there’s going to be some challenges this year in many arenas. George will continue to discover the world – he’ll completely different this time next year I’m sure. As I write this he is 9 months old, not quite walking but babbling quite a bit. We don’t think we’ve had a ‘word’ from him yet, it’s more sounds. But we think we’ve heard him apply the ‘t’ sound to the cat. So a bit more work there and who knows… It’s very exciting to see him learn things and it’s a constant process too.
We’ve settled into a Attachment Parenting style of parenting (at least we think we have). We didn’t go out and ‘pick’ a style, we’ve just sort of fallen into it organically. Which I think is probably the best way. Kate has just bought some ‘real’ reusable nappies (although I don’t like the term ‘real’) so we’re going to try that again having done a month or so at the beginning of another style of reusable nappies. The first time round we felt we had enough on our plate without having to make nappies any more difficult than needs be. Now things are getting easier.
Along with ‘AP’, Kate won’t be returning to employment at the end of her maternity leave. We would much rather have a parent take care of George than a childminder or nursery nurse, the finances don’t really make sense for her to return and the fact that these stages are so short and so important and it’d be terrible for both of us to miss are all factors in this decision. Kate has some ideas of how to make an income – so that will be an exciting thing for the year too.
I think I will most likely, along with playing with George (which I am LOVING), be stepping up on a few hobbies I’ve developed an interest in. Due to the above paragraph they will be cheap ones and involve things we already have or recently got. A Beer making kit, Raspberry Pi, Photography – something I’ve always been interested in as you can probably tell from my Flickr account but more recently I’ve found I didn’t really know too much about what I was doing. I’ve always really thought only about what I was taking a picture of, not really combining it with how to combine that with how to take the picture. So I’ve been playing around more with apetures and may play a bit with HDR pictures and long exposures. I’m happy with the kit I’ve got at the moment, even if it may be starting to show it’s age, but it’s still perfectly able to do the job and the beauty of a good SLR is being able to change lenses – a friend pointed out a great deal on a 55mm f/1.8 lens in November so I made sure I had one in time for George’s first Christmas and it was so much fun and interesting to use. To have to think about taking pictures differently.
We’re going to try and get a decent London trip in early this year, there’s many friends and family down there that we haven’t had much of a chance to see for a while. Kate’s parents are also looking at a house in the Canaries to escape the winter so we may get a chance to go out there too when it’s sorted. Providing of course we’ve got hold of a passport for George.
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